Learning How to Say 'No'

I have to learn how to say no to people and things when it is not benefiting me. I have been in so many situations where I would say yes to things when I really felt like saying no. I have become a people-pleaser and I have started to stress myself out because I have not used the word 'no' often enough. Life would be so much better for me if I learned how to use that word in few areas of my life. I had a male friend who would say 'no' whenever I asked him for something but, when he asked me for something, I would always say 'yes'. I have always tried to go above and beyond for people even when they do not do the same for me. I also have a tendency to be a better friend to my friends than they are to me. I have decided some time ago to fully take control of my life and allow myself the right to say 'no' to people and things. I have been the 'yes' person long enough and now-it is time for change. Now is the best time to make changes in your life now that the Spring Season is here!!! Evaluate your life and make a list on what you would like to keep in your life and what you would like to dismiss from your life and then make plans to make it happen. I am working on a Motivational Book and I want to include a portion of the Book to be about being in control of your life and to make decisions that work best for you and not other people. I have so much to say about that subject that it may be a book by itself. My goal is to inspire you to be the Best that you can be in your everyday life but, make sure that you are living your life the way that you see fit to live it!! Stay in tune with where you are heading in your life and know that you are making the right decisions to accommodate your life and lifestyle. It think it is vital that at this point in life, you have to be clear about what makes you happy and content with your life. Stop thinking about saving face and not appearing to be mean to people when you say 'No'. Just say no and you will find your life to be much easier and less stressful than ever!! Until Next Time, Carmen

Let Your Light Shine!!

With Spring in the air and things to accomplish, I encourage you to let your light shine within you!! Encourage others to live the Best Life they can live! We only get one shot at life and it is up to each person to make their lives what they wish for it to be. I want to speak to the young viewers who may still be in school and finding themselves hanging with a crowd of unmotivated people. Let your light shine by allowing yourself to be free from the old stuff and renewed in the new. Allow yourself to be an example by living out the example. Most kids don't have family to talk to or be encouraged by, so you have to be the best friend, classmate, associate to set the standard for others with no direction. I really am excited to begin my process to work with children who do not have anywhere else to turn and those who want a better life. With so much violence and crime happening here in our own city of Atlanta and many other places around the world, we need to be especially ready for the youth of today. So of the youths are turning to crime and away from educating themselves. I see more and more black boys hanging on street corners and gas stations than anything else. Most of thee guys are disrespectful to the people in their own neighborhoods. I watched the news were an 18 year boy is going to prison for life plus 70 years. If we don't get out there and direct these youngsters now-they will also be facing Life plus 70 years!! Let's give back to our communities and participate in making your neighborhood a better one and a safer one for everyone. Knowledge is power and without education, you will never be able to obtain it!!!

Until Next Time,

Carmen

The Phony People of the World

There are so many phony people in the world today. So many people trying to keep up with Joneses' (whoever they may be) and some just covering up the awful life they are currently living. I have a word to the wise, if you have friends or family members that are phony, it is not a good idea to be around these people for a long period of time because these people are also known to drain your energy. Think about this-if the phony person has all these wonderful things and this Grand Life then why do they brag about it? My only answer to that question is the fact that the phony person lacks self-confidence which leads them to brag about what they have or what they spend or how much money they have. I have a few people in my circle who are very insecure about themselves-they have to make up for it by constantly trying to win you over with something they bought or an expensive item they bought themselves. It is always something with these type of people. They have to be known for being something other than what they are!! I love the fact that I have no reason to brag and I would not brag. I teach the kids in my family not to brag because bragging is for those people who need attention and suffer from low-self esteem. Phony people have to create a life that doesn't exist so they themselves will exist. Truth of the matter, phony people suck your energy and what good is it to associate yourself with these people for?? I had to learn the hard way and I hope that I help you before it is too late. Stop hanging with people who are phony-they will never change!!!!

Until Next Time,

Carmen

Spring Time!!

It is Spring time-officially!! I am so excited for the weather to warm-up. I am planning my trips for the year at this time. I am thinking about visiting Miami, Bahamas, and Vegas so far with plenty more places to visit in the future. I am Spring Cleaning this week-I am getting rid of the old and in with the new!! Spring Cleaning this year consist of me letting go of things, people, habits and old attitudes and replacing them with something that will benefit my life. I have clothes and shoes in my closet that have not been worn for years and it is time to let go of those items and make way for new clothes and shoes. I am also cleaning out relationships with friends this year. I have a few friends who are my friend when they are inviting me to one of their parties or trying to get something from me for free. Then I have those genuine friends who are always there without judgement. I also have people in my life who absolutely Should Not be relevant in my life-you know who you are!!! I am letting go of people/friends who are no longer valid friends. We all know the meaning of true friends so I really do not have to elaborate the meaning. I have kept a lot of people in my life who are not the best of friends-so I have decided to Spring Clean their asses out of my life!! Excuse my French!! I have learned that when you have people and situations in your life that are not becoming of you, you have to let them go if you plan to thrive in your life. Some people are leeches and just like to keep asking for loans or to borrow to never pay back. I had a friend who was a leech and I have let him go too!! There is no need not to be in control of your life and the situations that come up in your life, you just need to be aware when someone or something is not working for your life!!
I decided to clean up my home and maybe even trade in my car to start off a New Season in my life! I am also in the works of creating an organization that will help children stay away from crime. There are so many things I need to be doing in my life and I have started on most of them now and I have more to accomplish. I hope that you are doing some Spring Cleaning in and around your life so that you may have the life that you desire and to help others to acquire the life they desire!!
Until Next Time,
Carmen

Have A Great Life!!

Life is meant to be enjoyed. I think sometimes people often become so busy with work and running errands that we forget to enjoy life!! One thing I have learned from my mom is to enjoy your life!! I am surprised at times when I am with my mom because she is always happy. She enjoys her job, her friends, family, children and husband and she never seems to be overwhelmed. I have no children and no husband but, I do have a demanding and sometimes stressful job and I am on the edge all the time. I have decided to take out more time to enjoy my life and travel to places I desire. I wish to adopt my mom's attitude for my life ad lifestyle. I have the BEST MOM ever!! I am so happy that I have been blessed to have in my life. My ne philosphy in life is to be Happy and ive a Happy Life!! I am encouraging you to make sure that you live your life in full happiness and be content in where you are so that you can move forward to where you desire!! I am no longer allowing stress in my life and I invite you to check out the No-Stress Page and let's live a stress-free life!!

Stay Motivated!!!!

What Motivates Me!!!!!

There are a lot of things that motivate me to move for wad in my life and everyone should have something that motivates them. If you are motivated, you can do anything and accomplish everything that you desire. I am on my way, I have started the launch of my new collection of handbags and scarves and in the making of looking for a manufacturer.I have been preparing myself for my upcoming Trunk Show and making this a one of a kind event. Find your motivation and get off your ass and live your life. Stay motivated and find what keeps you motivated. One thing I found out about staying motivated is by staying away from people who may drain you and keep you away from your desires!! I had to make sure that I kept myself surrounded with people who will not steal my joy or keep me from my desires. It is very important that you keep your circle of friends with positive people. I dated this guy who was fun at first then he turned out to be an annoying jerk. Of course, he thought he was being funny. I felt uncomfortable when he acted out in public. I knew after the second date that he was not the one for me and I let him know that I was not feeling him. You know when people are good for you or not. You usually know within the first moment you are in their presence. I have let go of a lot of friends in my life due to the fact that they were sucking the life out me. I made a choice t stay away from people who drain me of happiness and motivation. Do yourself a favor and live your life and live it to the fullest!!

Until Next Time,

Carmen

Enjoy Your Life!!!

Life should be enjoyed. What is the purpose of working hard and not enjoying the fruits of your labor? We waste so much time doing things that are not fun or enjoying to you? I have started this year with a new attitude, I decided that I will live the life that I have always dreamed of and stop living for everybody else. I changed a lot of things in my life, I let go of an old friend who I loved so much but, was draining the life out of me. He was not the best thing for my life now and as I have grown, he is just not for me at this point in my life. I was so sad in the beginning but, in the end it was all worth it. Here is a photo of my niece who thinks she is the Princess of my world and she is my princess. She is the life of the party-she enjoys he life and she is just like me and my mom-she keeps it real!! She knows what she wants and she is out to get it just like me and my mom. I encourage you to live life and let no one stop you from living the life that you want. It is so vital that you change your life to be about what you want and what you desire and you will find life happier to live and your attitude will be happy and content. Be blessed on your journey and move forward in your happiness by living out your life the way you want to!!

Until Next Time,

Carmen

May your day be a blessing and a new start. Stay motivated and have a wonderful day!

Challenge Yourself

Challenge yourself to have the type of lifestyle that you desire. I have place a separate page on this site so that you can get more insight on how to have what you desire for your life. Give it a try and see how you feel about it challenging yourself to be or have whatever you desire. Stay open-minded and know that you efforts will be rewarding in the end. Take the time out to focus on what you want from your life and then begin planning how you will receive what you desire for your life. Stop looking at other people and start looking at yourself and within yourself to find out what you want from your life. I don't want someone else's life and lifestyle-I just want a certain type of lifestyle that includes a very luxurious lifestyle. I love my life now but, I want to be a Billionaire, drive different luxury cars and have a large home behind some gates. I currently live in a Luxury Apartment complex behind gates and driving a very nice car but, I desire more!! I hope that you take out the time to evaluate your life and decide if you are ready to have the lifestyle that you desire.

Until Next Time,

Carmen

What a Lovely Day!!

Today is a new day to do bigger and better things!! This is the day the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it!! Yesterday, I had the pleasure of speaking with some rude people who made me evaluate myself and my feelings towards my life. I realized that I need to adjust my attitude and stop trying to figure out why people are the way that they are. I need to figure out why I am the way that I am. I am grateful that I have enlighten myself on the fact that it is not other people I need to worry about, it is I who needs to change how I react to other people. I have learned that I have to chose my happiness and it begins in the morning when I awake. I have the power to adjust my attitude before I walk out of my door. I have the power to control how I feel and behave before I get to my destination and I have the power to make sure that my happy state of mind is present when I get to where I am heading. I am the person who is in control of my life-not other people. I was so blind in the past because I felt that other people needed to adjust their attitude when they were in my presence when it is the opposite. You have to claim what you want from your life and you have to stay firm with yourself until whatever you claim comes to past. It takes a lot of patience and practice until it becomes a way of being. We want to alter other people when we just need to alter ourselves. Take charge of your life and claim this day to be the best day of your life and live it so!!!

Until Next Time,

Carmen

The Gift of Love

The Gift of Love is Powerful!!! When you look back on all that you have and all that you have received, are you thankful or grateful for anything? I work in Customer Service and the one thing I don't understand about people is why they are so unhappy. I work in a place where people come to enjoy themselves and learn about natural history and the customers that come to this place are the rudest and most ungrateful people ever. I really do not understand why they come out and have a bad attitude-why not stay at home instead of coming out in public where others have to be bothered with it? I am no longer trying to figure out why people are unhappy but, I want to figure out how happy am I??? I say that because if I am happy then no other person should be able to shake my happiness. We human beings pick up emotions from other people and that can sometimes drain us if the emotions are sad or depressing. I deal with so many people and their complaints that I get frustrated at times and I lose my mood because I allow someone else's mood to affect mine. Well-NO MORE!!!! I am walking in the happiness that I have within me. I have the gift of love within me and I wish to spread it to every single are of my life. I first begin at work and then onward to friends, family and the men I chose to date in the future. If I can keep track of my attitude and mood and make sure that it is always in line with the way I feel in happiness then nothing or no one can change it.

Until Next Time.

Carmen

Get What You Want

Get what you want from life!! Stop waiting around and get started on planning the type of lifestyle that you desire. The only way to get what you want is to get out there and get it!! We have one life and it is time to have the kind of life that you desire. I think it is vital to be the best that you can be by giving yourself the best life that you can have. I begin a 3-day Challenge that I did not feel that I could make but, I made it and I am a better person because of the challenge. The Challenge helped me to see that I needed to upfront and honest with myself about things I want and don't want in my life. I took an different approach to living my life and I encourage you to do the same. Check out my 3-Day challenge ideas to help you get the things you want out of your life and to live the kind of lifestyle that you desire. Get ready for a change in your life. Stay tuned as I post the Challenge ideas soon.

Until Next Time,

Carmen