Be Encouraged~~

Be Encouraged!! I am allowing myself to stay encouraged and motivated because I am involving myself in a lot of new projects and other new ventures. The one thing I have been dealing with is letting other people's crap enter my life and thoughts. I talk about how to deal with people who cause stress in your life but, did I tell you how to deal with people who are not aware that they are causing stress in your life?

Being around people who feed off of negative gossip and energy is a waste of your time. You should be able to distinguish when something or someone is causing a rip of negative energy. God fully equipped us to determine when someone is full of the wrong energy and when to let go of the person causing so much bad energy. You have to be able to determine when to let go of people who are causing you to stress. We all have friends, associates and loved one who are not aware that they cause a lot of stress in your life or that they speak on things that bring about negative energy. They are not conscious that they are causing discomfort to anyone, they assume that you want to part take in their negativity. When I was in my 20's, I did a lot of gossiping and talking negatively about people but, now I am more mature and aware that talking about someone else in a negative light will reflect on my life. I made a conscious decision to watch what comes out of my mouth and what I think about. I can be upset with a person but, I don't have to harp on it!! I learned that with time all wounds heal and life pressing forward.

So when dealing with people who are all about the negative, you have to spend less time around them. Some times, it is a good idea to separate yourself from those who cause the bad energy and allow them to be away from your presence for a little while. While they are on temporary leave from your life, you can evaluate if you think that the person is a good fit for your life going forward. Never evaluate what will work with your past, just your future. Think about where you are heading in the future and think about if that person will fit in with the future you are creating. If they are still the same a year later, what purpose can they serve in your life. I always pride myself with having people of substance in my life and not those who create unnecessary drama or strain. I have always had people in and out of my life that were no good for me and some were alright. As I have grown older and wiser, I am aware when I need to let someone loose from my life because of the strain they are causing in my life. You don't expect for people to keep up so much gossip but, there are so many people who have no life, that all they can do to be relevant is keep gossip circulating. I like to speak on an experience that I have dealt with in the past. I let go of a lot of people due to the fact that their lifestyles were very different from the lifestyle direction I was heading for in my own life. I have loss contact with a lot of friends along the way and believe it or not, I am happy that I did. Some times, you out grow friendships and you must move onward. Understand that some people are in your life for a Season and they have to move on and you have to let go and some are in your life for always. Don't keep people in your circle who gossip because they cause you to stress out. Another quick note, is not to allow people in your life who are not Genuine. I will discuss that a little more on the next post.

Until Next Time,

Carmen

Follow my Motivational Page over the weekend and find your motivation to live the life you desire. You only live once~ Carmen

Be happy with your life and make your life what you want it to be instead if looking for other people to make you happy~ Carmen

Yippee for the weekend which has finally arrived. Hope you weekend is Safe and Fun and also Stress-free!! Carmen

Enjoying Every Moment!!!

Enjoy each moment of your life and live in the moment. It is very important that you are in control of living life the way you see fit. Live each moment as if it is your last day. I have spent time these last few days, doing things that make me happy. I am using as much of my free time working out and spending as much time walking Nature Trails. I enjoy taking a walk and looking at Nature. I made sure to use the my days off from work to be as stress-free as possible. I did not want to hang out with anyone that would cause me to be stressed. There is enough stressed people in the world today and I do not want to be one of them. I have being pulling myself from people who gossip or ask too many personal questions. If someone is asking me questions that will help them to succeed in their life, I don't mind. I mind when someone is being too noisy in my personal business or just gossiping about things that need to be dismissed. Some times, the best way to live your life and enjoy the moment is to pull away from other people and spend some time alone with your own thoughts. You do not always need to be in touch with friends when you are off from work. Sometimes, it is a good idea to be without the drama and other people who stir up drama and enjoy being in the moment. If you allow yourself to experience happiness and joy in each moment of your life, you will find that life is easier to live. You don't have to worry about getting stressed out or caught up in drama, just living life the way you wish for it to be!!!!

Until Next Time,

Carmen~

Working Hard Before I Launch My Collections

I have been working very hard for the past few weeks trying to complete my various business projects. I am launching my handbags and scarves next month and I have already begin my personal styling and wardrobe organizing. I have been super occupied doing too many other things that I lost track of the time I was wasting. I begin looking at my life from a different perspective. I have many talents and skills and I have decided to go forth in doing things in my life that make me happy and bring me some type of joy. I have no more time to waste and I have goals for my projects after completion. With my first Preview Party for '202' Collections, I sold out every single bag. I had one bag left and I bought the bag to wear on special occasions. Now, I have upgraded my bags to luxury bags and renamed the company to Fortress22. I am now focused on what I want at the present which allows me to embark on many different ventures, ideas and creations. I look forward to hosting my 2nd Annual Preview Party in July 2011 and I look forward to meeting new people and selling you quality handbags, scarves and styling at a reasonable price. I am looking forward to sharing my ideas and styles with you. Please check out my other sites as they will be updated in July. Fortress22- www.fortress22.blogspot.com '202' Collections- www.202collections.blogspot.com. Check them out and drop me an e-mail if you are interested in buying a product or need a service at carmenbailey202@yahoo.com.

Until Next,

Carmen

New Life for All!!!

After my experience with a neighbor's teenage daughter, I decided to make sure that I blog on behavior, attitude and personality. I experienced my neighbor and her daughter fighting loudly every single day for the past few months. These folks did not care that they had been disturbing their neighbors or making complete idiots of themselves. Their fighting go out of hand earlier this week which lead to the Police coming out to diffuse the situation to no avail. The daughter's character was unacceptable in this society. She screamed to the top of her lungs for at least an hour and a half until she was removed from the premises. Her behavior showed me that their are some people out there that will never get any further than where they are and they think that it's ok. Some days I wonder if I wanted to stay in this Luxury Apartment Complex were so much crazy was happening right beside me. I have decided to move because I pay quite a bit to stay where I am and I see no reason why I should be somewhere that's noisy and full of mentally-ill people. I was so shocked that this young girl was acting like a 3-year kid having a tantrum in the middle of the street. I wanted to go out there and talk with her just to see if I could calm her down but, she was clearly putting on a show. I wanted to speak with her and let her know that anything that she wanted in life she could have but, she had to learn the value of respecting herself and others. She was speaking another language and it was difficult for the police officer to assist her because she was not speaking clear English. The mother seemed beat up and tired from the fussing and constant fighting. They both needed a clear lesson in living life the way it was meant to be live-in peace and harmony amongst each other. The daughter clearly had no respect for her mom and the mom was clearly trying not to beat the hell out of daughter from the fear of being deported. The mom seemed to be worn out after her daughter let loose and screamed for a long period of time.

People, understand that life is what you make it and no one is responsible for your life, just you. You cannot take you frustrations out on other people because you are not happy with where you are in your life. It is not your mother's fault or father's fault with the choices that you make regarding your life. Only you can take fault in your life. When you are so upset with the way you life has turned out, instead of taking your bad behavior out on someone else, you should take it out on yourself. You are the reason why nothing in your life is the way you want it to be. Take the time to journal or write down your thoughts and goals and make plans to see them come to past. I hate to see so many people with such bad attitudes because their day is not going the way they planned and they take it out on innocent people. The weak folks take other people's bad attitudes to heart and allow it to change their attitude. The strong people continue on in good spirits not allowing any one's bad day or bad attitude affect their day!! You have to take charge of your life! If you are one of those people who think that you need to have a tantrum because things in your life is not going your way, you need to work within yourself and find a way to make what you desire come to past. If you are one of the people who allow other people's behaviors and bad attitudes affect how you live and feel, then you need to gain more control over your life and actions. You must learn to stand a firm ground. You cannot allow yourself to be shaken because someone else is having a bad day or experiencing a bad attitude, you are the boss of yourself!!! Choose to be in Control of your life and live a new life that is based around what you desire for yourself.

Until Next Time,

Carmen Bailey

Journal/Gratitude Journal

Sometimes we forget to say how fortunate or blessed we are in our lives. There are so many people in the world who have it harder than we do and we take a lot of things for granted. I want to take out time to say how gratfeul and blessed I am. I have come a long way in my life and it has all been according to choices that I have made for my life. I have been blessed to see another day and to have a great job in a wonderful environment and beautiful Historic Druid Hills. I am amazed at how far I have come and I am blessed and grateful. Take some time out in the morning and before bed to journal. Journaling helps you to keep account of many events and wonderful blessing that you encounter daily. With a Journal, it helps you to learn more about yourself and others. It also helps you to look at where you are heading in your life. I was reading an article on the news website and the one thing I don't understand is why there is so much crime happening in Atlanta. There are a lot of people out there doing harm to other people which leads harm onto themselves. So many young men going to jail and prison for crimes they could have prevented. So many mothers taking the lives of their own children. I am no mental doctor nor do I study behavior patterns of people like these but, I do know that we all have control over our lives and our actions. We will not stop experiencing violent crimes until we look within our own lives and change ourselves. Most of the stories I read about is what is taking place in my neighborhood or surrounding neighborhoods and it surprising how much stuff is going on. It surprised that it so many young black males getting into a lot of trouble. They are committing senseless crimes and all of these crimes can be prevented. The youth of today have no clue what journaling is because their parents don't do it and their parents are not investing in them the skills to live a healthly life and lifestyle. I was at the store the other day and in front of me was a lady and her five children. The kids were all over the place and had no discipline and I looked at the mother who was pregnant with another baby and looking for her Food Stamp card was not bothered that her kids were irate in a public place. When the mother spoke to the Sales Clerk, Ebonics was here language of choice and the Sales Clerk could not understand what she was saying. I was embarrassed for our people and those kids who looked like they just did an Ad for a Hungry Children's Organization in Africa. I was in total shock because when I was growing up, my mom prided in her children looking the very best they could whenever we stepped out in public. She is still that way today and all of my mom's children are grown. I think that we can prevent a lot of things that should not happen by learning more about yourself through Journaling and teaching those youth and small ones how to do so as well. I am looking to write an Etiquette Blog for Low-Income moms and children. This will help them to inspire to be more than the average they know of. It will teach them to take pride in themselves and their children which will lead to them taking pride in the communities they live in. It all starts with one person's household and then on to the next to spark change in our lives and our communities. Let's teach these children of today why it is so important to journal and take back their lives to be the best that they can be now and forever~~

Until Next Time,

Carmen

Day Trips!!

These photos were taken when a friend and I went to the Botanical Gardens in Atlanta. I work at a Museum so some times, I like to go to other places similar to where I work. I love the Botanical Gardens-it is one of my favorite places to go in the city. My next best spot is the Michael Carlos Museum on Emory Campus. I love going to these two places because they both pique my interests. Another quiet-kept spot is Fernbank Science Center & Forest. The is a Nature Trail at the Science Center that I love to walk through. The admission is free and the site-seeing is fantastic. I love spending time walking through the Forest and taking loads of photos. I had to add in Day Trips to my blog because a lot of people are not able to take vacations. So sometimes, day trips is all that available for some people. I take a drive to Pine Mountains, Callaway Gardens as often as I can just to get away from the everyday scene. My mom took my entire family to Pine Mountains for Christmas and rented a cabin for the week. We had so much fun and then it snowed. We were so excited to get away for the Holidays that we are looking to do it every Christmas Break. If you have kids, there is so much to do in the city of Atlanta. There is a City Pass deal were it includes admissions to all of Atlanta's top Attractions. It is the best thing to do when you can get away to visit another state. I have to say that my other favorite attraction is the Zoo-which I blog about pretty often. I get into most of these places for free because of my job and I am so grateful for that. I don't have kids but, I take the kids in my family to every attraction in the city as possible, so that they will be very well cultured. I would like to recommend that you go to sites like Access Atlanta and Groupon so that you can take advantage of what Atlanta has to offer if you are unable to leave town.

Until Next Time,

Carmen

"Now is the time to live the life you desire to live and enjoy each moment of each day that you've blessed to see!"

Live your life in the now~

Your lifestyle in this moment is all that matters. Yesterday and tomorrow do not count-only today matters~ Inspirational Quote-CBailey

"Be in the moment!" A lot of people look to the future for change but, change happens in the moment you choose for it to happen~ Carmen

Your Happiness Depends on YOU!!!!

Your happiness depends on you. You can't look to another person, place or thing to bring you the happiness that you desire for your life. You have to find your own happiness within yourself. Most people don't realize how to make themselves happy and that is why I started my blog. My Blog represents a passion for me-to inspire other people to be the Best that they can be in their lives at this moment. We live in a world where everyone is worked up and stressed out and it seems as if there is no end to the madness but, it is!!! You can determine what kind of life and lifestyle you want to live, if you evaluate yourself NOW!! I have a page on my blog to help you deal with stressful people who create stressful situations. You have to rise above all the stress that is around you and live in the happiness that you create in your own life. No one's bad attitude or stressed lives should affect your life. You are not responsible for how other people live or act, you are only responsible for your actions. You cannot allow other people or situations stress you out. You have to take charge of your life and live your life for yourself. You have to step away from other people's issues and deal with how you want to live your life. I work in a Customer Service job which is a little stressful at times due to the many different situations that happen each day. My job has taught me to be myself and learn to accept others for who they are. I cannot change people but, I can change how I deal with people. Some situations make me want to step outside and smoke a cigarette to de-stress. I have learned that I am as stressed as I allow myself to be. If I allow someone or something to stress me out, then I don't have control over my life. I allow the person who stressed me out control my feelings if I do allow them to stress me out. There are so many people who are suffering for stress-related illness because they lose control of how to handle their lives. Some people are not even aware how stressful they are in their own lives. I want you to take out some time for yourself and learn the Secrets to Finding Happiness within your own life. Ask yourself what is making you unhappy and what can you do to be Happy and BE HAPPY!! Happiness comes from within you and you will never be happy until you tell yourself that you are happy and then you will become Happy!!

Carmen~

Coping With Stressed People

Stressful people can stress you out as well. I learned that I have to make sure that I am not stressed by other people no matter what may be happening in their lives. The only way to deal with diffusing a stressful people is removing yourself from their presence. They are dealing with something and the only way to allow them to deal with whatever they are going through is to let be alone and able to cope with whatever they are dealing with. You don't have to be affected by some one's bad attitude or bad day, you just need to allow them space and yourself relieve from being around them. Some people are aware that they are stressful and some people are clueless about the fact that they are stressful. I try to remain calm because blowing up to someone who has stressed you out does nothing but add more stress to your life. The other person that is stressed may be dealing with something that may cause them to be outlandish and brute. As a Motivationalist, I believe that most people who are stressed need to speak with a professional and get help through letting go of emotional pain and strain. The more time passes, the worst off they become and I am going to add another page on this site to help people let go of emotional stress and past pains. Please take out the time to read it and pass along if you know someone who may be suffering with stressful personality.

Until Next Time,

Carmen