Be Encouraged!! I am allowing myself to stay encouraged and motivated because I am involving myself in a lot of new projects and other new ventures. The one thing I have been dealing with is letting other people's crap enter my life and thoughts. I talk about how to deal with people who cause stress in your life but, did I tell you how to deal with people who are not aware that they are causing stress in your life?
Being around people who feed off of negative gossip and energy is a waste of your time. You should be able to distinguish when something or someone is causing a rip of negative energy. God fully equipped us to determine when someone is full of the wrong energy and when to let go of the person causing so much bad energy. You have to be able to determine when to let go of people who are causing you to stress. We all have friends, associates and loved one who are not aware that they cause a lot of stress in your life or that they speak on things that bring about negative energy. They are not conscious that they are causing discomfort to anyone, they assume that you want to part take in their negativity. When I was in my 20's, I did a lot of gossiping and talking negatively about people but, now I am more mature and aware that talking about someone else in a negative light will reflect on my life. I made a conscious decision to watch what comes out of my mouth and what I think about. I can be upset with a person but, I don't have to harp on it!! I learned that with time all wounds heal and life pressing forward.
So when dealing with people who are all about the negative, you have to spend less time around them. Some times, it is a good idea to separate yourself from those who cause the bad energy and allow them to be away from your presence for a little while. While they are on temporary leave from your life, you can evaluate if you think that the person is a good fit for your life going forward. Never evaluate what will work with your past, just your future. Think about where you are heading in the future and think about if that person will fit in with the future you are creating. If they are still the same a year later, what purpose can they serve in your life. I always pride myself with having people of substance in my life and not those who create unnecessary drama or strain. I have always had people in and out of my life that were no good for me and some were alright. As I have grown older and wiser, I am aware when I need to let someone loose from my life because of the strain they are causing in my life. You don't expect for people to keep up so much gossip but, there are so many people who have no life, that all they can do to be relevant is keep gossip circulating. I like to speak on an experience that I have dealt with in the past. I let go of a lot of people due to the fact that their lifestyles were very different from the lifestyle direction I was heading for in my own life. I have loss contact with a lot of friends along the way and believe it or not, I am happy that I did. Some times, you out grow friendships and you must move onward. Understand that some people are in your life for a Season and they have to move on and you have to let go and some are in your life for always. Don't keep people in your circle who gossip because they cause you to stress out. Another quick note, is not to allow people in your life who are not Genuine. I will discuss that a little more on the next post.
Being around people who feed off of negative gossip and energy is a waste of your time. You should be able to distinguish when something or someone is causing a rip of negative energy. God fully equipped us to determine when someone is full of the wrong energy and when to let go of the person causing so much bad energy. You have to be able to determine when to let go of people who are causing you to stress. We all have friends, associates and loved one who are not aware that they cause a lot of stress in your life or that they speak on things that bring about negative energy. They are not conscious that they are causing discomfort to anyone, they assume that you want to part take in their negativity. When I was in my 20's, I did a lot of gossiping and talking negatively about people but, now I am more mature and aware that talking about someone else in a negative light will reflect on my life. I made a conscious decision to watch what comes out of my mouth and what I think about. I can be upset with a person but, I don't have to harp on it!! I learned that with time all wounds heal and life pressing forward.
So when dealing with people who are all about the negative, you have to spend less time around them. Some times, it is a good idea to separate yourself from those who cause the bad energy and allow them to be away from your presence for a little while. While they are on temporary leave from your life, you can evaluate if you think that the person is a good fit for your life going forward. Never evaluate what will work with your past, just your future. Think about where you are heading in the future and think about if that person will fit in with the future you are creating. If they are still the same a year later, what purpose can they serve in your life. I always pride myself with having people of substance in my life and not those who create unnecessary drama or strain. I have always had people in and out of my life that were no good for me and some were alright. As I have grown older and wiser, I am aware when I need to let someone loose from my life because of the strain they are causing in my life. You don't expect for people to keep up so much gossip but, there are so many people who have no life, that all they can do to be relevant is keep gossip circulating. I like to speak on an experience that I have dealt with in the past. I let go of a lot of people due to the fact that their lifestyles were very different from the lifestyle direction I was heading for in my own life. I have loss contact with a lot of friends along the way and believe it or not, I am happy that I did. Some times, you out grow friendships and you must move onward. Understand that some people are in your life for a Season and they have to move on and you have to let go and some are in your life for always. Don't keep people in your circle who gossip because they cause you to stress out. Another quick note, is not to allow people in your life who are not Genuine. I will discuss that a little more on the next post.
Until Next Time,
Carmen
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